What we see in life is affected by the “lens” we use.  Here’s a quick look at how appearances can be deceiving.


A bazillion years ago, I was given a Franklin day planner just before I went on a church mission to Mexico.  In it, I started jotting down crazy ideas I had that I wanted to do some day.  One of those ideas was to tell how different camera lenses could be used in the same setting to “paint a different picture.”  Now (a bazillion years later) I get to cross that idea off the list and sort through the other million remaining.

In the previous story we did on “Flowchart”, I was able to con our second oldest daughter Aly and her husband Jace into helping out with the shopping shot.  With this story, our oldest daughter Alexa gave permission to use the picture of her and I in our “at-odds” hoodies.

There are some family discussions where we agree to disagree.

There are some family discussions where we agree to disagree.

In the story we try to illustrate a couple of different ways on how we don’t see eye-to-eye with people.  Much of this comes from personal experience and the multitude of mistakes I keep making.  Maybe doing this story will help me remember the content, and make less mistakes.


All five of our daughters have been blessed with the ability to, uh, “state their opinions.”  I switched gears from the daughter in the opening picture (daughter #1) to the daughter in the second scenario (daughter #5)–that’s why I put “different” there at the top.


For the lens geeks out there, the lens on the top left is a 75-200mm, 2.8.  The video on the top right is coming from my iPhone–because I couldn’t get as wide with the phone to get the shot below.  The shot below is from an 18-55mm fisheye lens I believe.  I can’t remember the specs off the top of my head.  I had it mounted on the top of our other car to get this shot.

The shot on the left is generally what filmmakers will do when they want to compress space–like when a person is about to get hit by a train and jumps off the tracks at the last second.  That lens will make the train behind the person look really, really close.  The reality is that the train could be 40 or 50 feet behind.  It’s funny what a little piece of glass can do to play tricks on our perception.


It took a couple of tries, but Savannah was able to nail down what I asked her to say here.  The funny thing here is that this is the type of line that all five of our daughters would come up with, unscripted, at any given time.  They get their beauty and wit from their mother.  I’m still waiting to see what they got from me.


This was the picture to tie the beginning with the end.  When Alexa got married, we had a few jokes we tossed around as I walked her down the aisle.  (She was a good sport, as usual, putting up with her old man.)  Obviously, I added the color in here to the tie and flowers to match the hoodies on the left, but there was a sort of implied method to the madness I guess–we don’t have to AGREE on everything, we just need RESPECT the viewpoint.